I had the opportunity to interact with several teenagers of both sexes during my six weeks stay in Nepal. I had firsthand experience of how those young minds think and behave alike. The education system and the unreasonable demands from the parents that their children become who they want them to be when they grow up have equally played a vital role in molding and shaping them as who they are in the present. Coupled with that mindset, the outdated education system has grossly failed them as well to fulfill the potentials that these students have within their curious and bright minds:
1) Detachment from the Family:
People believe that family is the first and foremost school for any child. The family is a necessity for their healthy upbringing. They learn to trust, befriend, socialize and express themselves in the family even before they set their foot in school. Most private schools are in this strange league to outdo other schools by overemphasizing on homework in order to look as “the best school” in the eyes of the parents. In this conflict of interest, while trying to keep the parents happy, students are the ones to suffer, just as the old adage goes, “When bulls clash, the calf gets hurt”.
The excessive amount of homework put enomous pressure on children. It can be very stressful. Homework anxiety cause more harm than good for them in the long run.
Toddlers come home with tons of homework just as much as middle school children get from their teachers. A first grader or be a fifth grader cannot and must not be assigned five or six pages long homework. Folks, I get it that parents want their children from going outside to play or watch television or play a video game. They are more than happy to confine their children to a little space with books, papers, and pen or pencils until dinner. Your pursuit of keeping those parents happy is a great disservice to these little ones that many consider them to be the “future stars” of the country. Firstly, that amount of work put an enormous strain on the tender muscles around the wrist and the joints of fingers in that age.The excessive amount of homework can be very stressful. Homework anxiety causes more harm than good for them in the long run. Secondly, the children of any age need to spend quality time with their family for their psychological development and emotional health. The self-serving interest of these schools has barred these children from enjoying play and be with family at the expense of completing their schoolwork. It is a violation of children’s rights to play.
2) Detachment from the Peers:
Wilhelm Stekel, an Austrian psychoanalyst (1868-1940), remarks, “In reality, we are still children. We want to find a playmate for our thoughts and feelings.” Stekel’s voice vehemently resonates with the cries of these children who are loaded with the disproportionate homework for their age. Children enjoy the company of a friend of their own age. They share similar feelings and thoughts. Colorful and creative thoughts spiral out from the use of their imagination. The insatiable hunger for creativity is unmatched when they find a playmate of their liking. So, it is a preposterous suggestion that detaching the children from their peers can excel them in academic excellence.
The moral bankruptcy of these parents is such that they often complain to or argue with the school administration if their children are done with their homework before bedtime.
Having said, I do not intend to minimize the importance of good books. In the ancient times, the great number of literature were produced when writers had no other companions but books in their isolation. Yet in the normal life of a child, books must not be seen as an alternative to learning and exploring new things with his/her friends that this world has to offer them.
In the meantime, parents are also not devoid of a guilt or a moral culpability for their children’s psychological misery. One of the bizarre and comical reasons I have ever heard from these parents are that they pay a hefty tuition fee to send their children to private schools so that their children could get a quality education. They think that kids learn nothing from playing with their peers. The moral bankruptcy of these parents is such that they often complain to or argue with the school administration if their children are done with their homework before bedtime.
In the equation of pricey tuition fee and the busyness of the students, the parents tend to believe that only the excessive homework that keeps the children away from parents, siblings, friends, and entertainment can justify the money they spend on their children’s education. Apart from those, anything out of homework is unacceptable thus condemnable.
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